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14-Oct-2017 07:52

One of the questions I am asked most often, when I give talks about my books on gender and politics, is about anger.Young women ask me how I get away with expressing anger with such apparent ease, and they worry about men’s reactions if they do the same.Unfortunately, denying your anger does not make it disappear.It grows in the dark, away from daylight, into something twisted and unhealthy, eating away at you from inside.Many women you know are angrier than you can possibly imagine.Most are pretty good at hiding it, having been taught to do so since childhood.Inside, they might be seething with rage they have been taught never to express, anger they can barely acknowledge even to themselves. How many times have you heard people dismiss and belittle a woman who dares to express emotion by telling her she’s probably menstruating? The patriarchy is so scared of women's anger that eventually we learn to fear it, too.They’d probably be surprised to find out how common that feeling is. How many times have men in power — including Donald Trump — tried to push back and put down women who criticize them by implying that our opinions are nothing more than a mess of dirty, bloody hormones, none of it rational, none of it real? We walk around as if we were bombs about to go off, worried about admitting how livid we really are, even to ourselves.

Part of me was always afraid that if I stopped hurting myself, I would start hurting other people — but anger does not have to lead to violence. Hatred is anger applied indiscriminately, anger attached to cruel — rage reworked into an excuse to lash out at another person because of who or what they are.

This is supposed to end the discussion, because more than anything else, women and girls are supposed to want to be attractive. Being honest about my anger has made me surer in myself, and my life is now gloriously full of friends and partners who don’t require me to take up less space.